Often from the adults, can be heard saying: "Well done, kid!" - Although the praise is not deserved and the child's performance task was far from the best. But often, unfortunately, you can hear from them and a different assessment, which falls on him like a sledgehammer: "No, this is very bad!" So what's all the same to do? Do not praise or blame? What do I do when the child is really trying, but it has not yet happened? In this case, must give the baby to the success of the installation: "Today you have not yet happened, but you will try and get you all tomorrow or the day after tomorrow. The one who tries, be sure to get. In practice, there is one installation - "Installing the fear of mistakes", that "if I make a mistake, I will curse". The results can be achieved in the first and the second case, but whether the same result with "Installation of success" is fun, because it aims for the future: "Today I have achieved it, but tomorrow'll do even more!" At the same time the children formed a large thrust to knowledge, cognitive interest. An adult should do the job as soon as more interesting for the child. But that might be expected child in the future, if he gets used to doing only what it easy, interesting and easy. There are a lot of work needed, but tedious, self execution of which little joy. Who in the future will be to fulfill them? Child, while he is small, must learn to get pleasure from overcoming difficulties and achieving outcomes. The objective should be doable if desired, and attentiveness to the child. What happens when a child makes the hundredth time to repeat what he knows and knows how long? He chatter, the brain at this time is in intellectual stagnation. This occurs, for example, with children, well prepared for school, because they are boring to listen to what they have long known. And then, when the old stock of knowledge will dry up, it is very difficult to call for a new overcome. The same negative result is obtained when setting the child is a daunting task. It immediately triggered a protective reflex: "I do not know how to anyway, I will not try and Therefore, the task must be feasible for the child, but to present some difficulties to overcome, and that there is cognitive interest. For results of the child must be praised. But in dealing with insecure children can use two types of praise: "anticipatory praise" or "advance praise". "Early praise" - is not praise for the result, and the first glimmers of success, if the child is tried, he deserves it. "Praise to the advance" - this is praise for what a child will do immediately after the praise. "Bravo! As your hands are working well! "And the child who absolutely did not pay attention to how he works his hands, they begin to work with his hands. Should I apply the punishment? Yes, it is. And, often, the punishment must be the result of misconduct. Dirtied - Clean, dropped - lift up, poured out - take away. Sometimes the result is more significant: torn dress - did not take a visit (to visit because one can not go in a tattered!) For a long time going - not gone to the cottage (late bus), etc. But in this case, you must deny himself and the pleasure to go to visit or go to the dacha. Especially harmful to the child the threat of an adult, which are quite frequent. A firm knows that its spare and simple. Therefore, the threat is better or not speak, or actually perform the above. And when you say it in next time, you must believe! There is one very important phrase that should never be used in relation to the child: "YOU ARE BAD!" What might happen to the psyche of the child in this case? Child unconditionally believes adult. Therefore, those who are not sure of himself, decides: "I'm really bad!" And puts on a cross. And then it will be very difficult to convince him otherwise. A spirited child thinks: "If I am bad, it's nowhere more, I shall be poor!" And then try to convince him that he was good! From all this we can conclude that the patience - it is the quality that must have grown. And it is especially important in working with insecure child. Imagine a man who stands beside you, and at a time when you are doing something, insists: "It is not bad, slow-witted, clumsy!" I assure you that even an adult in this case can be lost. And we have not here to talk about the baby? Child needs support, constant reassurance, build confidence in the fact that he would succeed.