Last year's sad ... "You have a baby!", - She said, calling him by telephone from the hospital. "Already? I'll call "- that's the whole answer. Only at that moment she realized that they were in the world Two. I hoped until this moment that he recovered himself, and gladdened his paternity. But, unfortunately, this did not happen. She was 20 years old, had to draw on the work of leave to care for the child, and return to her parents. Listen to them just moralizing about how today's youth and dissolved to what brings fashion to civil marriage, it is not very complicated. For parents - are the only people who truly love her and her child. Was it difficult to cope with their emotions, experiences in the first weeks after discharge. Become herself helped her own child. Small lump on my mother's hands made her twice as much strength and confidence. However, you - the power! Like any young mother she had been added cares and troubles. Sleepless nights, the problem with "belly", washing, ironing - from moms who are not familiar with? Throughout the day, or rather all day, something she did. But there is one. Despite the fact that she lived with her parents, she tried not to load their concerns about the child. And if freedom was granted, then a young mother just went to sleep in the place where you are. Tired impacted. In order not to waste time at night to getting up and approaches to the crib, to feed the child, she began to take on the night of him. Parents helped financially, as they could. First of all, money worries were the most for them. Social payments from the state was not allowed to lend even a month without parental money. Well, at least for dairy kitchen vouchers were given: the child drank only a pack of yogurt and ate curds, and milk battered adults. Sometimes, she felt collar on a parent's neck, but comforted himself with the thought that when my son goes to kindergarten, she will work and be able to provide for himself and his son at least the bare necessities. On the playground she was no different from other moms on weekdays. They were too tired, they also wanted to rest and sleep. And over the weekend she tried to leave the stroller in a secluded place, because the eyes assailed tears at the sight of mothers, girlfriends, walking arm in arm with husbands who proudly rolled to a wheelchair. But these emotions she was able to overcome in themselves. She has never regretted that gave birth. What gave birth, not knowing his status as single mothers. No wonder they say that the first year for the young mother the most complex. So it was with our heroine. The first year she saw nothing but diapers, diapers, bottles, teats. The whole regime of the day was painted exclusively under the regime of feeding, sleeping and waking the baby. Instead, she learned to make better use of their time. When a child is one year old, she previously studied all the possible benefits returned to work part-time work week plus the use relying breaks for breastfeeding and went home early for an hour and a half. Incidentally, this provision may make use of all mothers with children up to six years, regardless of whether the child is breastfed or not. Initially, at work, she was met with sympathetic glances. But then the surrounding realized, that they returned a different person - a woman, confident in our abilities, and needs no pity. Not recruited their domestic concerns and problems, she was friendly and smiling with everyone. Again. Since the child has to sit grandmother, and later, when it became easier with money, it is possible to find in the same yard nurse, who agreed for little money with the little boy walk. Of course, argue that the search for a nanny through an agency did not have to. Through the agency receives very expensive: after all, in addition to salaries for nurses, had to pay 50% of the monthly salary of the agency for services. For the "parent" families often this option is not available. A nurse, "the yard" can be better and still have "local recommendation" neighbors. And she did not need to spend time on the road to the other end of town, and at the same time, it is a good perk. A child of our heroine, I must say, behaved like a real man: if understood how and why my mother is trying, and almost never cried when the morning waving her pen. She again began to communicate with his high school girlfriend. We walked for three weekends: She, her baby and girlfriend. Of course, she did not go with her to parties and nightclubs, but the day when the baby was playing in the sandbox or snuffle in a wheelchair, girlfriends could, as once, to discuss their problems. Communication also means a lot in the life of a young mother. Often, the birth of a child's social circle is closed: the child-mother-child relationship. Time, and strength to go somewhere there, and there are such rare meetings, even if the joint child sleep or walk, have a meaning. ... Once on the work she had to take the documents to another office and that day she was released early. On the way home on the bus She met her friend with a young man. They chatted. A friend met him at some party, he served two two and therefore are often able to meet her friend from the institute day. Hearing that friends agree on their usual Saturday walk, the young man came by, too. And with the new Saturday trips were held in the larger composition. A strange thing: that if he so much liked the girlfriend that he wanted to spend more time with her, then whether the ...